Be. Do. Have.

By Roland P. Desjardins

All of us have an idea of what we would like to Be, Do and All of us have an idea of what we would like to Be, Do and Have in our lives – both personal and professional. Sometimes these ideas come in the form of pictures or movies that we play in our heads, sometimes it’s feelings that we want to feel, and sometimes it’s things that we imagine people would say about us if we reached that “place.” Everyone does it. 

In order to achieve these things, many approaches have been tried. All of these approaches have centered around two of the three words on the headline until recently. 

Have. If you look back to your school days, you probably have a lot of things that you had imagined that you would have at this point in your life; perhaps more; perhaps less. Either way, if you are focused first on the haves of your life, you will never be totally content. We all hear about the miserable millionaires or lottery winners who end up broken or depressed. 

Do. Focusing on the “stuff” that you should do to get where you want in life has also been quite popular. “Do these simple steps” that will lead you to your dreams. That’s what consulting does. The problem with this approach is that the vast majority of people’s lives are a conglomeration of their current habits. And their habits fill their day. 

A much more effective approach is to BE that person now. If you are having marriage problems – BE a loving spouse. If you would like a more engaged staff, BE a more caring, more effective communicator and leader. If you want more sales, BE an effective salesperson. If you want to be a successful business owner, BE that owner now. 

If you put the Be-Do-Have in the right order, your personal and professional life will give you everything you have ever imagined. 

The Coach’s Corner by Roland P. Desjardins CEO, Velocity Business Advisory